Needing More Wisdom

These are the hardest days of my life.

I have tried to lead the best I can during this painful time with both my actions and my speech.  I have tried to take care of Shawn and have tried to say all the right things to him, my family and his friends.  But, I feel like I am failing in so many ways.  I know there is no handbook for how to take the family through something like this, but I wish I would have been more prepared spiritually, emotionally and mentally.  

I wish I had more wisdom.  I am praying for more wisdom. 





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  1. UnknownJuly 11, 2019 at 6:39 AM

    Praying for your continued strength. Please take all the time you need.
    "And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus." Phil 4:7.

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  2. Mike LitherlandJuly 11, 2019 at 7:52 AM

    It is already within you (the strength and wisdom) even though you don't feel it. In the midst of this pain, you just go on with faith that you are what you need to be for your family and at the end of the day, you will all be together again. God bless you all.

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  3. Toni LeachJuly 11, 2019 at 9:08 AM

    Stay strong but take a moment for you, I'm sure u need it. I can't imagine what you are feeling, even though I did this journey with Dad not that long ago. Cherish every moment, even the unspoken moments. Try to stay strong in front of Shawn Jr, he needs to know you will be ok (even if your not) its important. We are sending prayers daily, in Grandma's words We love you All the Most.

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  4. Angel Group IIJuly 11, 2019 at 10:05 AM

    I lost my mother at a very young age, and my thoughts and memories of that time were not about what someone did or what someone said or didn't say or do. They are about those who were there, those who put their arms around me and held me silently as I cried, those who shared my sorrow without shame of their own tears, and those who held my grandparent's hands as my mother lost her battle with Cancer.

    Know that your support and love for your family is all that is truly needed. While I'm not bold enough to consider myself a close family friend, I am bold enough to state that in the brief time I've known you, I've witnessed your true character. You exude Christ-like qualities in every interaction and inspire all who know you with your endless compassion.

    So, I pray you know that you are enough, that you are wise enough and that you are spiritual enough. Continue to rely on the Lord for support and know that He has placed others around you to help you bare this incredible burden, don't be afraid to lean on them and know they also pray to be enough for you.

    My family sends all of our Love and Prayers to you, Shawn Jr., and to your beautiful family.

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  5. Rebecca De LoacheJuly 11, 2019 at 5:03 PM

    You and Shawn's family were enough. Your love is all Shawn needed and that you were not lacking in. Don't doubt yourself. James 1:5-6

    If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind....

    May God give you peace.
    Rebecca

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